Are You Hurting or Helping Your Husband?

I just started the Good Morning Girls Bible Study, which is in Proverbs 31 for this session.  Although I got in a little late, there is not a bad place to start with this study, as every verse is valuable.

Today their topic was "doing good to your husband" and Angela asked readers to add to her list of ways you may be harming your husband and ways to bring him good.

She gives a great list in both categories, but one I would add would be, looking nice and caring for yourself, in honor of him.

Now, this is a sore spot with some women, when I mention this as one of my pet peeves.   I often get a rebuttal, claiming reasons why a woman doesn't always wear make-up or look her best.   I get it, ladies!  I am not June Cleaver and I don't walk around in pearls and high heels! 

However, I have seen many women who get way too comfortable in their old sweat pants, no make-up,  with hair that doesn't get much attention, day in and day out.   This bothers me!   I'm not talking about the occasional dressing down for housework or garden work.   But, even a simple application of blush or lipstick, with hair that is taken care of and something other than an old t-shirt, is an effort!

Men are visual!  Not that they expect their wives to be beauty queens, but I do think men appreciate a "put-together" looking wife that has put an effort into looking nice for him.

And, I get this view point, first hand, when my husband notices a woman that has this look 90% of the time.   He has also pointed out the women who look this way while they are married, but seem to make a major transformation as soon as they are divorced.   I see this as a testament to how they don't respect their husband. 

I've noticed women who don't take care to look nice during the week, but get all dolled up for church.   This, to me, says that their husband isn't worth the effort, but the public is.

I just want to say, that if you have a husband out in the work field, women who have taken time to look nice, are all around.   Like it or not, your husband is noticing them.   Don't get me wrong!  I'm not insinuating that he is looking, with the wrong intentions.  However, who doesn't notice a nice looking woman?  Even we appreciate someone who looks nice and put together, don't we?

So, why would you take time to look your best for everyone else, but not your man?  He's number one in your life, so make the effort! 

It doesn't mean that you are in a dress and high heels, with a ton of make-up on.   It just means that when he comes home at night, he sees someone that cares about herself and isn't lazy.   He sees someone that thinks he's worth the effort it took for you to look your best - just for him!  And, in return, he will, hopefully look his best for you, as well.

Take the time ladies.   See what happens.   You might be surprised at seeing a light in his eyes that you haven't seen in a while!

Blessings!